RELATIONSHIP ER
FIRST AID & TREATMENT PLAN FOR A WOUNDED RELATIONSHIP
HANS STAHLSCHMIDT PHD

How to heal & create a relationship you want

Nothing is more normal and natural than a couple in trouble.

I see impasses and breakdowns in long-term relationships as a non-pathological and normal process. Disappointments and misattunments often lead to excessive arguing, hostility or emotional distancing as well as loneliness in the relationship. Relationship impasses often result from over-accommodation to the partner and/or avoidance of the issues. Chronic misunderstandings can eventually lead to a loss of love. The expectation to be understood is built in our DNA.

Our Relationship ER process is designed to bring errors, resentments, and real needs to the surface. It is designed to find a way through the minefield of unresolved issues, find ways for profound and lasting repair and create a relationship foundation that is based on the real needs of each partner.

My approach is both supportive and challenging and is based on neurobiological and attachments concepts that confirm that we need the support of a partner in order to be able to work through individual primary core issues.

I have been trained in various couples therapy models, among them, David Schnarch, James Maddock & Noel Larson. After being trained by the founder of the PACT approach, Dr. Stan Tatkin, I am now senior core faculty and senior trainer of the PACT Institute and use this multi-faceted approach for the work with my couples.

Name, Title

MY STORY

Dr. Hans Stahlschmidt, Expert Couples Therapist

I worked for many years as a psychologist in Germany. I received my PhD in the US and became fascinated with couples work. I have worked with hundreds of couples over the last 20 years and I am senior core faculty & senior trainer at the PACT Institute.
One of the greatest and most difficult challenges is to develop and maintain a vital and fulfilling long-term relationship.
We have learned a lot what gets in the way of understanding and supporting each other as partners as well as concepts and skills that foster a deeper and more lasting bond.

EFFECTIVE COACHING SERVICES

Supporting You and Your Desire for more Connection & Vitality

Helping you to identify the pain and disconnection that you feel with your partner. Understanding underlying early experiences that shaped your misunderstandings and error prone reactivity. Experiencing fully how basic woundings contribute to the chronic misattunements, attacking or distancing behavior patterns and develop the capacity to shift and co-regulate the dynamic between the partners. I help you to improve your ability for error correction, repair and develop skills that will create the foundation for a well attuned relationship.